About LisawithnoL
I am the author of The Underground Mother Road, sardonic essays on divorce, the family I didn’t pick, and midlife reinvention. Been at this since 2007.
Why The Underground Mother Road?
Est. 2007.
Long ago, in a galaxy far, far away… I live a double life. There is the surface life, the one the public sees, where I wear my fake face. Then there’s the other life underneath. The real life. It is ugly, it is damaged, it comes with a lot of emotional baggage. I travel the road of my life underground, and by myself. Thankfully, there is relative freedom in anonymity. I have to work it out somewhere, so venting it here keeps me sane.
I started this blog, originally called Tales from the Underground Mother-Road, because I needed an outlet. Somewhere to vent where I would not be judged, somewhere to tell it like it is for people not living the life advertised on TV. At first, it was because I struggled with being a mother, a step-mother, and a wife. I struggled with my marriage. Life, in general, just seemed like it was always knocking me for a loop.
Then my marriage fell apart. I decided to walk away and file for divorce. Things got really ugly, and I had to take a hiatus from this blog because I was afraid my ex would find it and use it against me.
Then the divorce was final, and I moved away. I started over again, but not from scratch, as I was dragging with me extra baggage, emotional and physical. The weight of the past is like a yoke around my neck. I came back to this blog as a place to reconnect with myself. Mistakes were made along the way, but here I am.
What I Write About
Steering into the skid of a midlife crisis. I am still screaming into the void (can anybody hear me?) but with more purpose and regularity. It is my safe space, where I can be who I really am. Since the drama of being me doesn’t seem to be confined to my midlife, I have decided to document the ongoing crisis.
For almost twenty years, I have been writing about my difficult familial relations, being a single mother (even when I was married), reluctant step-motherhood, parenting, then divorce, the trials and tribulations of co-parenting with a terrible person, and rediscovering myself as I battle the ravages of encroaching old age. None of it resolved. All of it documented.
Where Am I?
Back to the future. Wanderlust has dragged me back to Guatemala, embarking on new adventures, with nary a clue or a map to where I am really going. I am on a midlife sabbatical, fulfillment of a life fully lived and well documented. My primary goal, as I commit these words to the ultimate thesis: my memoir. Starting over at the beginning, the void is coalescing and spreading outwards, much like The Nothing, but with less despair and more company. a healthy dose of sarcasm and adult beverages applied liberally when necessary
Find Me Around the Internet
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The life you ordered is out of stock
So far, nothing has gone quite like I’ve planned or expected. Not even this blog. Not sure what I was hoping would happen in 2007 when I decided that my life was way too frustrating to suffer through it all by myself. Welcome, all of you, my real-life imaginary friends.
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