Divorced. Now what?
Got divorced. What happens now?
The full, unvarnished account of what happens after you finally leave a bad marriage — the legal chaos, the emotional wreckage, the years of co-parenting with someone you'd rather never speak to again, and the slow, nonlinear process of putting yourself back together.-
Movie For One
I go to the movies alone. I love it and totally don’t mind not having someone else with me to watch the movie. Maybe it’s residual conditioning from having experienced the extreme opposite: going to the movies with a loudmouth malcontent who ruined the experience either by falling asleep during the movie or by being the guy who blurted out the plot because he figured it out ten minutes into the film…
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I Dub Thee Mr Horrible
I am really tired of referring to my was-husband as “the ex”. He isn’t my anything anymore. I would like to permanently disown him if that were at all possible. Since I can’t do that (damn the mixing of genetic material!) the next best thing is to give him a whole new title.
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Passive Aggressive
It might have been easier to leave had he been overtly abusive and used his fists or had shouted more. Unfortunately his methods were more insidious, harder to detect, therefore, easier to excuse away. It is hard to grasp just how crazy I felt all the time married to someone who employed his passive-aggressiveness like a samurai sword. I am having difficulty believing that I will ever “grow” from this experience, or be able to look back on it without tons of regret and shame.
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I’ll See Your Divorce and Raise You an Abuser
A book I read triggered some reflections on the divorce and how it all went down. And something about a game of poker...
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A Lame Excuse By Any Other Name, Is Still Lame
When your ex forgets your birthday and somehow makes it your fault, that's not an oversight — it's passive aggression. Recognizing the manipulation is a win.
