Divorced. Now what?
Got divorced. What happens now?
The full, unvarnished account of what happens after you finally leave a bad marriage — the legal chaos, the emotional wreckage, the years of co-parenting with someone you'd rather never speak to again, and the slow, nonlinear process of putting yourself back together.-
Already Brushing Off the Dust…
Sometimes I think about the time when the marriage began to disintegrate for real, and the stages of grief that followed through several months after the divorce was final. I consider the alterations it affected in me and how I have changed as a person on the inside, but also how the experience affected my perception of things, in particular: MUSIC.
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Labors Lost: Laments on the Thankless Nature of Raising Someone Else’s Child
Reflecting on the thankless nature of raising someone else's child. Being a step-parent isn't easy. Who knew?
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Working My Nerves
Even after the divorce the ex continues to pin the blame for random things on me. He is working my every last nerve.
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Failure Is Not an Option…
So I have a goal for the end of this month: to feel (and noticeably look) more fit. I would like to be able to say that I am only motivated by personal improvement… but I’m not that noble! Mr Horrible is arriving for a visit, and Lord knows I don’t want to be found worse off than when I left! I gained 20 lbs since I moved here to Texas. I know I sank into an unhealthy depression, after the big move, the trauma from the move, and emotions (mine and the children’s) crashed on me all at once. It doesn’t make me feel better to see the evidence…
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Navigating Uncharted Waters…
My new apartment is a brave new world. It dawned on me, as I sat in my most recent Craigslist acquisition, that I am really doing it! I am making my apartment my home. It helps that my belongings, which until recently had been in storage in New Jersey, are inbound, thereby bringing closure to my move West. It’s official, I now have NOTHING left that ties me to that black hole (aka NJ).
