My So Called Life
All the random ass shit that happens. Read at your own risk.
Day-to-day dispatches from a life that is technically ordinary and somehow never boring. Work problems, relationship observations, aging indignities, boundary violations, and the occasional moment of genuine clarity that makes all the rest of it worth it. The catch-all category for everything that doesn't fit neatly anywhere else — which, honestly, describes most of real life.Decay of a Decade: Looking Back and Setting Better Goals
It is that time of year – the day before the New Year, time to take stock and plan ahead. In particular, it is time to evaluate the last 10 years and figure out how to better approach the years to come. I figure I can’t do much worse than I already have, what do I have to lose?
One Wild Night in the Seychelles
A wild night on Navy deployment: a hidden club in the Seychelles, a stranger who could really dance, and the shipmate ready to fight me over it. A look back.
2020 – Hindsight and the New Year
2009: unhappy marriage, SAHM, church choir. 2019: divorced, dream job, five cats, paying my own bills. Feels like I am doing better. Room for improvement, but that's ok.
Merry Christmas to Me – the Gift of Peace
I didn't invite my mother and brother for Christmas this year. My mother tried everything to get invited. I woke up at noon and felt nothing but peace. Merry Christmas to me.
Stepped Over the Line – Disrespecting My Boundaries
I texted my brother to say I wasn't coming to work. That should have been the end of it. It was not the end of it.




