To Be or Not to Be: Friends with the Ex

My ex is coming to visit the kids for their Spring Break. When we first talked about it I was okay and even kinda looking forward to it. But as the date creeps closer I wonder if I should be “friends” with my ex. 

I can tell that the ex-husband has not quite reconciled my role in his life at present. Anyone who spends a percentage of our conversations sexualizing them in some way has not yet figured out that we are not together “like that.”

I have my opinions on it and would like to be able to take a scorched-earth approach to that relationship, but having children together complicates everything, especially an exit strategy. I have a couple of videos that weigh in on this complex subject.

11 Clear Signs You Shouldn’t Stay Friends With Your Ex

Can Exes Be Friends?

Why You Should (Or Shouldn’t) Stay Friends With Your Ex

Decision Made

For reasons of self-preservation I choose to not be friends with the ex. I cannot in good conscience overlook the way he treated me during the marriage to wax nostalgic about him now after the divorce. For my mental health and his well being, it is for the best if we just pretend we don’t exist until we are forced by co-parenting obligations to interact.