On Being Married

I have been married to my husband for almost 8 1/2 years. In this time, I have concluded that I am not the person I used to be.

Everything about me is different. I don’t think the same way, I don’t prioritize my life in the same way. My whole outlook on my life went through this transformation the day I said “I do” and I was terrified of the implications, the picture in my mind of this shackle strapped to my ankle keeping me inevitably linked to this other person–no matter what–it remains a very scary proposition.

I had thought it through before I accepted his proposal, and looking back on the last eight years, if anyone had told me I would have gone through all the drama, experiences, and trauma of years one through seven, I would have turned tail and run saying “Never mind!”!

But I have survived, our marriage endures and to give our marriage a new lease on life, we have decided to renew our vows on our 10th wedding anniversary which falls in 2009.