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Passive Aggressive
It might have been easier to leave had he been overtly abusive and used his fists or had shouted more. Unfortunately his methods were more insidious, harder to detect, therefore, easier to excuse away. It is hard to grasp just how crazy I felt all the time married to someone who employed his passive-aggressiveness like a samurai sword. I am having difficulty believing that I will ever “grow” from this experience, or be able to look back on it without tons of regret and shame.
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I’ll See Your Divorce and Raise You an Abuser
A book I read triggered some reflections on the divorce and how it all went down. And something about a game of poker...
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Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire…
He admitted to his affair partner that he never told me the truth — not once, not in 14 years. On discovering you've been married to a stranger the entire time.
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Low Blow
He said my contributions were negligible. We were both active duty Navy and I'd made rank faster. On marital misogyny and the satisfaction of leaving anyway.
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Angry As I Wanna Be
My mother told me I had no right to be angry at my ex. She's wrong. On why anger after divorce is valid, necessary, and nobody else's to manage.
