These Movies Are Killing Me Inside…

My taste in movies seems to be going through a transition, probably because of the divorce. I hope it’s not permanent cause it’s killing me, Smalls!

I had rented Crazy Sexy Love before the divorce to watch with the bastard. Ironically, we never did watch it together, probably because he had already seen it with someone else, it’s not like he would have told me the truth in either case… Last night I couldn’t get to sleep, so my brilliant plan was to watch a movie. A better idea would have been to pop a pill because I watched the whole movie and didn’t fall asleep until almost 3am…

Anyway, I can’t say if I would have enjoyed the movie more before the divorce, but post-divorce I was just irritated. I related to Steve Carrells character “Cal” but I was pissed that his wife (played by Julianne Moore) was getting the house AND the kids, and she was the one who cheated on him and asked for the divorce. Does that shit happen to people? Cause if so, that’s pretty messed up.

Then I just got mad because hottie Jacob (Ryan Gosling) helps Cal get his groove back so to speak, but Cal isn’t technically divorced, only separated and fresh from the sheets of his marriage bed.

Warning: there are spoilers ahead. I’m going to mention parts of the movie that if you plan to see it and don’t like plot points revealed in advance, you may want to stop reading now.

If you don’t care, plunge ahead…

So he compounds the problem by sleeping with 9 different women, and when his estranged wife finds out, now she is hurt, she no longer feels guilty for what she did to initiate the separation and I guess any chance to reconcile now truly was out the window.

It takes a long time to get to that conclusion, the movie is kind of all over the place, and by the end I am thinking that I could really care less about Cal and Emily because they both seem pretty clueless about what it takes to make a marriage work and the only relationship that I really think is interesting and off to an honestly good start is the backstory of Hannah (Emma Stone) and Jacob. Theirs was a much better story.

Basically I didn’t like this movie because it involves a legalistic grey area, “the separation” and I don’t consider separation a valid enough state to allow for the beginning of a new relationship. For all intents and purposes, anyone who engages in  a new relationship with another person, be it sexual or platonic, while separated, is cheating, either physically or emotionally, on their estranged spouse. Period. That is a non-negotiable.

Therefore, the person who gets involved with either party during a separation is handling damaged goods because they have not been healed yet. That is a recipe for disaster, and I should know (from first hand experience).

Unfortunately my disapproval of the separation circumstance ruined the movie for me. Too many people nowadays seem to unconsciously take moral cues from movies and music, my ex, for example. These sort of cinematic scenarios just encourage him to think that his morally ambiguous choices, just because they make him feel good, are justified. Machiavellian philosophy does not apply to relationships of any level, IMHO.