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I Dub Thee Mr Horrible
I am really tired of referring to my was-husband as “the ex”. He isn’t my anything anymore. I would like to permanently disown him if that were at all possible. Since I can’t do that (damn the mixing of genetic material!) the next best thing is to give him a whole new title.
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Passive Aggressive
It might have been easier to leave had he been overtly abusive and used his fists or had shouted more. Unfortunately his methods were more insidious, harder to detect, therefore, easier to excuse away. It is hard to grasp just how crazy I felt all the time married to someone who employed his passive-aggressiveness like a samurai sword. I am having difficulty believing that I will ever “grow” from this experience, or be able to look back on it without tons of regret and shame.
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I’ll See Your Divorce and Raise You an Abuser
A book I read triggered some reflections on the divorce and how it all went down. And something about a game of poker...
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A Lame Excuse By Any Other Name, Is Still Lame…
I received an email in my Inbox, specifically to a folder where I am having the emails from my ex redirected to, and it was from several days ago. Having his emails re-routed out of my Inbox is therapeutic, since thinking about him still pisses me off, I see no point in allowing him to be the thing that sends me spinning off into the anger vortex, this way I can see his emails when I’m good and ready–not have them sneak attack me at random times of the day. So back to the email…
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Ignorance Isn’t Bliss
I recently had a friend call and ask me for advice. She wanted to know how she could find evidence that her husband was cheating on her. First of all, she knew he was cheating. Her gut told her so, and it wasn’t his first time on the merry-go-round, so the signs were there. Her situation got me thinking, why is it so important to know?
