I Dub Thee Mr Horrible
I am really tired of referring to my was-husband as “the ex”. He isn’t my anything anymore. I would like to permanently disown him if that were at all possible. Since I can’t do that (damn the mixing of genetic material!), the next best thing is to give him a whole new title.
Passive Aggressive
It might have been easier to leave if he'd used his fists. Passive-aggressive abuse is harder to name, harder to prove, and harder to leave. Written April 2013, still processing.
I’ll See Your Divorce and Raise You an Abuser
Two months out of an abusive marriage, living in my brother's spare room, and I can't find a single divorce book that covers what this actually looks like.
A Lame Excuse By Any Other Name, Is Still Lame
When your ex forgets your birthday and somehow makes it your fault, that's not an oversight — it's passive aggression. Recognizing the manipulation is a win.
Ignorance Isn’t Bliss
A friend asked how to find proof her husband was cheating. The real question isn't how to find the evidence -- it's deciding what you'll do when you have it.
