Laboring to be a Buzz Kill
Holiday weekends and crowds go hand in hand. I don’t care for crowds, but I don’t avoid them either. If I know I’m going somewhere on a holiday weekend, it is safe to assume that everyone else will too, so I plan for it. This past Labor Day, the day started with rain, which meant indoor activities like the cinema were going to be packed… anyone who expected different was smoking crack.
Blocking the Blockhead
mr horrible called after midnight three times in a row. Can't block him — co-parenting agreement. I'm waiting for the day I feel nothing but contempt.
Filled With Regret
Fiona Apple wrote a song that sounded like she'd been in my marriage. Regret is on repeat. He opposed me just to oppose me. He didn't see me. That's regret.
Passive Aggressive
It might have been easier to leave if he'd used his fists. Passive-aggressive abuse is harder to name, harder to prove, and harder to leave. Written April 2013, still processing.
I’ll See Your Divorce and Raise You an Abuser
Two months out of an abusive marriage, living in my brother's spare room, and I can't find a single divorce book that covers what this actually looks like.




